Effortless Sophistication


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I love the short-sleeved version shown here, especially with that hat. What kills me, though, is that I can't think of any modern equivalent to a dress like this. What does a woman wear these days that is so simple and yet so un-girlish? Low-rise jeans? Please.

I'm thinking about this as today is my 35th birthday (yay!) and, even though I'm glad that I can just toss on a pair of sneakers and jeans any time I so choose, there's not an equivalent freedom further up the scale. Why is there this big gap now, where people are either wearing jeans or a cocktail dress (or, actually, jeans and a top that looks like the top of a cocktail dress, instead of the cocktail dress)? Where did all the intermediate stages go? (I mean, besides my closet.) It is a puzzlement, to be sure.

Anyway, now that I've achieved ostensible maturity, I plan on wearing a LOT more dresses like this, to fill in the gap. I also plan on doing these things: calling people "my dear boy"; saying "in MY day, a lady wouldn't be caught DEAD in that"; and indulging in completely unwarranted nostalgia for the mid-to-late 1980s.

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  1. HAPPY BIRTHDAY!I went to to hear the 5 Browns, a classical piano group of Julliard alum siblings.For the first half of the concert, the 3 sisters wore nice dresses. The second half one of them wore the same dress but the other two wore jeans and those tops that could be dresses if they were a bit longer. With both they wore very high stilletto heels. It was kind of jarring.

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  2. Happy birthday, Erin! Like you, one of the reasons I sew is because I can’t find dresses in a store that look good on anyone over 20 years old. How I miss those days of sophisticated fashions for grown women! At least we have retro sewing patterns to remind us of the good old days of real style.

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  3. Happy birthday!I am a beginner with this “sewing” thing — I can sew a hem or a seam and that’s about it. I’m working on my first skirt now. :)What I do for that no-womans-land in the middle is…I buy nice, but not cocktail-y tops on sale, and pair them with knee-length skirts or nice slacks. It’s not perfect, but with careful selection, it can get you through. (And the skirt I am working on is a nice tweedy affair, to be worn to work in the fall and winter, with cami and cardigan. Wish me luck!)

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  4. Happy Birthday Erin! Great dress – I love the sleeveless version, too. At our ripe old age (you’re a little over a month older than I am), I’m not sure we can get easily get away with “my dear boy”, unless it’s our own sons! Besides, I have no nostalgia whatsoever for the mid-to-late 80’s. Zip, nada, zilch.

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  5. Happy Birthday to you! 🙂 Hope you have a great one. I totally agree with you on the fashion no-woman’s land….I can’t find anything decent for anyone over 20, either, (I’m 41)….or short waisted with a CHEST. Glad we are all in this together….And Thanks, Mom, for teaching me to sew!!! 🙂 Again, Happy Birthday to you.

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  6. Happy Birthday!Like the other commentors, I make my own dresses and wear them all.the.time. I occasionally find dresses to purchase new but even the sundresses have a certain “you must wear me only to summer weddings and with fancy fancy shoes” look. Now, send me to a vintage store like the Red Light here in Seattle or Una Mae’s in Chicago and I will buy six vintage dresses in a second. (Okay, only the ones that fit.)Love the blog and pattern ideas!

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  7. Happy Birthday, Erin!Yes, yes, yes, clothes for women, not girls, waifs, chicks, hos, [insert diminuative and/or derogatory term for female person here] is the reason I love vintage too. Carry on!

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  8. Happy Birthday!I wear long loose dresses everywhere – morning, noon and night. They are so versatile, and can be dressed up so very easily. Some fabrics are more dressy or more casual, but so many can go either way depending on shoes and accessories. And, most importantly to me, they are comfortable as well as stylish. When it’s really, really hot, I wear shorter versions.I do have a few pairs of jeans, stretch pants and capris, but they last forever because they don’t get really frequent wear.

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  9. Happy Birthday indeed! :-)Okay, I also have to ask this now. What do you perennial dresses wearers wear underneath? Don’t you get terrible thigh chafing in the summer? Or do you get yourselves long granny undies?

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  10. Happy Birthday Erin!Love your blog! I can’t sew and can’t find dresses my size… yet.but I could always wish and hope it would be soon :)Have a great day and many happy returns of it!

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  11. Happy Birthday!And I agree about styles of dress – where did the middle ground go? I went to a concert at the New York Philharmonic a while back, and people were wearing baseball hats! Indoors! I shudder at the memory. 😉 Many happy returns.

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  12. i wld love to wear all kinds of dresses too! But sadly, short legs & long torso is a problem for fashion in singapore. wish i could indulge in the nostalgia too.. 🙂

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  13. Dear Erin – HAPPY BIRTHDAY! May the universe bring you the loveliest day and many happy returns – full of stunning dresses, luscious Liberty prints and ravishing haberdashery.And Yay! Leo-girl! We have a birthday overlap, as I’m following you up on the 13th. Due to the time difference I’ll start celebrating here in London whilst it is still your birthday in the US of A! Happy birthdays all round …with Virtual slices of special Virtual birthday cake for everyone 🙂

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  14. I thought I was the only woman in America who was excited about finally being a grown up. Either you’re an ealy bloomer, or I’m a late bloomer because for me the age of maturity is the big 4-0. Since I realized that it was coming up in October, I haven’t been able to stop bragging about it. I have banished jeans from my wardrobe and am learning to play bridge, and suddenly I’m finding that I couldn’t care less what other people think of me. I know what’s best.

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  15. Happy Birthday Erin – I’ll be 35 this year too and I feel ever more stylish as I get older – it may be something to do with having a bit more money to afford to buy great things, but I think mainly it is confidence in yourself to wear what you know suits you whether it is in fashion or not.Hope you have a great day!

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  16. Happy Birthday Erin! “Old”? “Mature”? Who cares. “Happy”? You Bet! That’s the main thing. Have a good one.Emma from Down Under.

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  17. Happy birthday, Youngun’! I love the world you open up to me that I had forgotten existed-“sew your own fashion for better fit”.Have a great birthday.

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  18. I always forget and it’s so close to mine!A VERY happy birthday to you and a splendid year full of vintage patterns and gorgeous fabrics that look stunning together or apart.

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  19. Happy Birthday, Erin.I share your dismay with what passes for fashion these days. So many lovely choices ignored for cheap looking jeans uniforms – not that I don’t love jeans too. Still what happened to elegance?I suspect it’s an economic thing (clothing manufacturers, that is). We sewing people have better choices and can set an example. Have lived my life in recent years (I have more than 20 years on you) in drapey pants made of wonderful fabrics with (of course) hats. You have inspired me to rediscover the dress. Thank You! K Q:-)

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  20. i love your blog! i agree, also love dresses but only buy vintage because of the lack of quality dress in stores. as for the thigh chaffing thing i gave up and bought a pair of streachy exersise shorts. now if i wasn’t lazy i’d get into “shape wear” but i haven’t. but yeah i’d love to know where to get a great pair of granny undies, the slinky kind w/ lace around the leg.

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  21. Hi and happy belated birthday! I’m sorry I missed Dress a Day yesterday. The funny thing is that I was thinking of you this morning when I put on my polka dot skirt!And there you were, on the 13th, highlighting some diggity dots on orange.Hope your day was splending! (That typo must mean splendid and full of reckless, fun spending:)Holly

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  22. I want hats to come back — the kind you could wear indoors, sitting at your desk. That way you wouldn’t have to touch up your roots so often…

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  23. It has been suggested to me to use baby powder to prevent chafing, but I’ve also read warnings not to use powder for health reasons. I usually wear some form of shorts under my skirts and dresses.I like split slips. I ordered one last year from Carol Wright Gifts (of all places!) for under $10. I’ve liked it, but the lace at the bottom of the leg openings has “scratched” the nylon legs as I’ve walked. (I can’t think of a better term for what has happened — it looks like some one scraped and then frayed the nylon.) I’ve also worn men’s boxer shorts and pajama shorts under skirts. The ones that have worked best are two cotton flannel pajama shorts (they aren’t as warm as they sound) that I got from L. L. Bean years ago. What seems to make them work better than average boxer shorts is that they are a little longer and have a smaller-in-circumference leg opening. (I’ve made boxer shorts more feminine by sewing decorative stitching on the legs and fly with my sewing machine.)

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  24. Okay, I admit to having the thigh chafing problem too, which has prevented me from wearing dresses on the hottest days (which of course is when you most want that nice cool breeze up your legs!). I think I’ve finally solved it with this new underwear I found at Target, which is kind of like shapewear-lite, in that it is more cottony and less binding, but still provides coverage and some slimming action. It’s called Assets (get it?) and here’s the link: http://www.loveassets.com/Products.htm. I am wearing some today under a matte jersey skirt, and am very un-chafed, and yet have no panty lines, or thigh lines showing.

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